Where cats like to be stroked
Most cats love the places where their scent glands are: the cheeks, under the chin and the base of the ears. When a cat rubs its face on you, it’s marking you as its own, so a scratch there feels like a conversation it started.
The back is fine for many cats, in short strokes. The tail, the paws and the belly are best left alone. A cat lying belly up is showing you it feels safe, not asking for a rub, and many will grab and kick if you try.
Know when to stop
| Tail twitching or thumping | Nearly had enough. Stop now. |
|---|---|
| Skin rippling on the back | Overstimulated. Give it a break. |
| Ears turning sideways | Annoyed. Take your hand away. |
| Head turns towards your hand | A bite may be next. Stop. |
A good rule: stroke for a few seconds, then stop and see if the cat asks for more by pushing its head into your hand. Let the cat decide.
Street cats are different
This is a game, and the cat in it has decided to like you. A street cat hasn’t. Never reach for one. Crouch down, offer a slow blink, and let it come to you. If it doesn’t, that’s its answer. Our guide to approaching a shy cat and the cat mood decoder have more.
A scratch or bite that breaks the skin can get infected. Wash it well, and see a doctor if it swells, hurts or turns red.